EVALUATING LOVE PROSPECTS IS A MAN THING, TOO! VISUAL VERSUS NON-VISUAL!

When it comes to love relationships, the media tends to focus on the female perspective and evaluations, rather than those of men. Now, this may be because women tend to read more than men, but there is a feeling that women are the hunters and men are the prey. Style, financial status, good looks, and possessions are often the superficial criteria of young women with respect to men.

Men are superficial, too! Due to the very sensitive biological heat and moisture sensation seeking device, attached to the crotch area of the male, for the purpose of reproduction, it often clouds a man’s ability to distinguish who is truly the best mate for him. If the woman doesn’t reach the high ranges of this `sensitivity meter’ a great woman may be overlooked by the guy, because of his insensitivity to qualities of substance.

WHAT ARE QUALITIES OF SUBSTANCE? – The easiest way to convey the essence of qualities of substance is to give you the experience. Qualities of substance are those things you feel, about another, when you experience them with your eyes closed (as though you were blind). It calls for discarding all other information you've received visually allowing another part of you to take over.  I'm talking about your inner senses (feelings, emotions, intuition, beliefs, dreams, expectations, etc.) and other senses (hearing, touch, smell, taste) coming to the fore to identify this person.

One of the first things a person without sight picks up on, before a person speaks, is the individual’s smell and energy. When the person speaks, the tone of voice conveys a lot about the speaker with regard to temperment, humor, respect, kindness, beliefs, personality, etc.

On the otherhand, with my eyes wide open in New York City, there’s an infinite number of visuals for men interested in women. In general, I’m an observer of human behavior, but visually, I can’t help but marvel at the Spirit’s creativity in making women of all different types, shapes and sizes beautiful in their own way. It can be in the way they express themselves, how they treat others, the little intriguing mannerisms, her posture, the person’s style of dress, the energy she brings to the moment, as well as physical qualities – the way she smiles, her figure (shape, booty, legs, etc.), the individual beauty of the face, and more.

The significance of all this is in experiencing the value of people without the superficiality of vision. Someone famous once said, JUDGE NOT ACCORDING TO APPEARANCES, BUT JUDGE RIGHTEOUS JUDGMENT. Out of our 5 senses, we give a considerable amount of weight to what we see - visually, often sacrificing what all the other senses are telling us. What many don’t realize is how this imbalance affects the very nature of our vision – similar to how magicians create their illusions. Illusions- the way we often create love relationships.

Another significance about the earlier experiment, of closing down physical senses and heightening the inner ones, is the information you get about another. THIS IS WHO THEY ARE AS PEOPLE. THIS IS THEIR IDENTITY. WE ARE DEFINED BY WHAT WE DO AND/OR HOW WE BEHAVE. If you were to collect the data you get from using your visual sense, versus data without it (as long as you haven’t carried over pre-conceived ideas from the visual), there will be a difference in that data. The distance between the two is the distance between the dream and the reality. The truth is closer to the non-visual.

A person’s identity is closer to those things you pick up about them when you’re eyes are closed. Or witnessing their behavior when they don’t know you’re watching. How they relate to people, who they show respect to, sense of humor, deceptiveness, etc. are all important with regard to who the person really is.

But how many of us know ourselves this way. Could we pass the test of being ready for a relationship? The reality is too many of us don’t know who and what we are so we project confusion. We can even feel it. We choose mates out of this confusion.  Many of us find solace in drugs (legal and mainly, illegal) to cope with a life we aren’t really happy with – and don’t know why it’s that way. The answer is Self Knowledge (or a lack of). The better you know yourself, the more you can focus in the moment. The more you focus in the moment, the better the chance of recognizing opportunities to make better choices. Better choices make for a better life. Self Knowledge brings a realization that YOU CREATE YOUR REALITY!

THE CLEARER ONE SEES SELF, THE CLEARER ONE SEES PHYSICAL REALITY. THE BETTER YOUR CHOICES IN LOVE!

QUESTION EVERYTHING!  THAT'S WHERE THE TRUTH RESIDES.